HOUSE OF ROBERTS BLOG

Ok I may step on some toes with what I’m going to say here but hear me out…

I have SO much beef with where the feminist movement has taken women’s perspectives and thoughts on womanhood. In the spirit of fairness and equality somewhere along the way women have forgotten, suppressed, belittled, and devalued the very beauty and essence that makes us who we are!! Believe me, I have drank that Kool-Aid once or twice in life too, so NO JUDGMENT! But I have gotten to a place in life where I don’t want anything or anyone defining who I am but the word of God! I have had moments in my womanhood, wifehood, and motherhood where I have felt myself responding or making decisions out of cultural norms rather than asking myself and God, “God what was your original intent for women when you made her? What was her role to be? What was her part to play? What did you want her pace to be?” It has become paramount for me in my faith journey to allow the Lord to set that narrative for me.

Our goal as faith-filled, Jesus following women is to be formed into the IMAGE of CHRIST! It’s very easy and subtle to allow culture to define us and set our perspectives. I have sensed the Lord in the last two years specifically, bringing me back and making me curious about “original intent.” Making me more concerned and aware of what God wants from me and my womanhood than what anyone else wants or even what I want. I have found myself in dialogue with Him saying “I truly just want what You want, and I want to function how heaven created me to function, so if I have overstepped, or been controlling, or have been culturally taught how to think in ways that don’t line up with You. I repent, I lay it down right now! I submit afresh! I yield! I want Your way more than mine!” That’s actually a really powerful moment because how much of your life you are willing to lay down for the Lord reveals how much you really do trust Him with your life.

I don’t enjoy that womanhood has gotten to a place that seems like one GIANT HUSTLE that defines us. That if we aren’t as strong as, working as many hours as, or have equal roles as a man then that makes us less of a woman. I don’t enjoy that there has been a massive swipe in my generation to devalue the gift and hard work of marriage and family, two things that if not intentionally and daily worked at will become unhealthy and impact every other area in life. I don’t enjoy that we think it’s a more important work to build our business than to build what matters most to God and that’s family and people! I don’t enjoy that we have lessened and diminished the role of creating and cultivating a home that is full of consistency, peace, responsibility, love, warmth, equipping for life and health as a lesser job roll in life. I would dare argue that because we have done this it is one of the main reasons there has been a major breakdown in society and in the struggling generations behind us. 

I looked around a couple of years back and REALLY didn’t like what I was seeing in culture and all the things that kids were struggling with. I wanted to point so many fingers (and there are fingers to point) but I felt like the Lord said to me “Gabby if you don’t like, who your kids are becoming the only one to blame is you.” WOW Lord, thanks, but honestly the tone He said to me was so kind and honestly like He wanted me to understand the authority I have over my kids. Now I know our kids have freewill and their lives are not going to be perfect and without struggle or mistakes and God knows us as parents are not always going to be perfect-- but as a whole, who they are or aren’t becoming absolutely is a responsibility we hold in our hands. That’s weighty huh? You're right it is, and I sensed the Lord tell me when he said, "It was a GOOD thing that we feel that weight—because we should honor the role, and that only with HIM could we carry it—that’s how it was designed.” It’s like the craziest most kind and generous thought to me that God allowed us to co-create and co-reign with him in the earth! It’s the greatest honor that we have the ability to create and raise more image-bearers on the earth. The enemy hates this mandate and blessing God gave us and since the garden has been working in our hearts to try to get us to lay down our blessing and call it a burden. 

I guess my point of this rant today ( and thanks for letting me do it), is to encourage us to evaluate where our truths are anchored when we think about our womanhood. Is it anchored in Christ? Do we believe He gave us a purpose from the beginning and that He knows what is best for us? Would we allow Him to tell us no or allow Him to rearrange our lives for His glory and the glory of our homes? Do we believe that He is our promoter and as we submit to Him he will cause our lives to flourish in every area? It’s important for us to be anchored in Christ in this area as moms and allow Him to define, teach, and correct us because if we are not we will be tossed around, fear mongered, and taught by culture on how to think on these things.

Pray and consider. Sit quiet and mediate. Allow the Lord to reveal whatever He wants to you and strength and define you as a women, wife and mom. You won’t regret it…I know I haven’t!

Love you all and are cheeeeering deep and wide for you and your homes!!